Buying Your First Dildo? You Should Consider These

How to Judge the Length of a Dildo

Firstly, dildos can seem a bit intimidating to new buyers. If you check out any random porn video, you’ll often see oversized, massive dildos that might be better suited for use as a tactical weapon rather than for naughty penetration.

However, your choice will ultimately depend on you, your desires, needs, and your body. There are a couple of ways to find your ideal dildo size. Obviously, you can consider the average penis length. That’s around 5.16 inches. If you’ve never had a partner who was bigger than that, most dildos will seem very large in comparison. Life-size dildos can cover anything from the average dick length all the way up to a monstrous 12 inches and beyond. If you’re unsure, think about your previous partners and the penis that you enjoyed the most. Alternatively, you can measure other items at home (hairbrush, cucumber, etc.) to get an inkling of the real size of the dildo.

How to Judge the Width of a Dildo

A general rule is that the thickness increases with the length. This is a measurement of the circumference across the widest part of the sex toy.

What’s more, the average measurement is around 3.66 inches for most guys. Girth matters for penetration because it can make you feel “fuller.” In one study, 90% of women claimed that they preferred width to length. And that’s understandable since the thickness provides additional clitoral stimulation and a higher degree of contact during internal stimulation. However, if you’re looking for an anal dildo, starting off with a thinner toy will make it go much smoother.

Bigger Is Not Always Better

Like we’ve said, this is a matter of preference. If you go big, a large dildo may or may not do it for you. And if you’re a size queen or king, and you know that bigger truly feels better and gives you stronger orgasms, then go for that monster dong!

However, if you’re inexperienced or your body makes penetration difficult, large dildos could feel painful and awkward. Smaller dildos and dilators may be a better choice at first for vaginal and anal play. Also, you can always buy several and experiment with different sizes. Additionally, if you want to practice deepthroating, smaller dildos can help you train your gag reflex to perfection.

Dildos Versus Vibrators

And what about the endless debate of vibrators versus dildos? Dildos are solely intended for penetration, while vibrators produce rhythmic pulsations for both internal and external stimulation.

Since dildos don’t contain motors on the inside, they are a bit lighter, more flexible, and feel much more like a real cock. Also, most of them have a suction cup base for hands-free pleasure. Moreover, if you’re into semen and ejaculation, a squirting dildo will allow you to replicate the experience and give yourself massive creampies or facials.

On the other hand, vibrators are slightly more versatile. Their strong pulsations can be used for clitoral stimulation as well as G-spot or prostate stimulation to push you over the edge and produce powerful orgasms. Still, dildos are a bit easier to maintain since they don’t require batteries. However, it’s possible to find vibrator/dildo hybrids that cover the best of both worlds.

So which toy is better for you? Well, if you get stronger orgasms from clitoral stimulation and a bit of penetration, go for a vibrator. If you want to use it with a partner, a smaller vibrator could also be better since it will lower the risk of dildo-envy. But, if you just want to stimulate your G-spot or simply get fucked and experience better orgasms that way, a dildo with a flared base will be your new best friend.

Which Material Is the Best

Another essential thing you’ll need to look up before ordering is the difference in toy materials. Sex toys are made from various materials, such as silicon, glass, metal, and hard plastics.

For dildos, it’s best to choose a silicone toy if you want to replicate the real deal. This is a squishy yet firm material that feels good and comes very close to a real erect cock. Avoid jelly, latex, and vinyl toys, or use them with condoms because they are porous and contain phthalates. Silicone is body-safe and non-porous, meaning that it doesn’t store bacteria. It’s also easy to clean, affordable, and durable. Other materials like glass or metal are also a good choice since they’re also non-porous, but they feel quite different compared to the real thing.

Reminder — Use Lubrication!

Finally, dildos are made of foreign materials that do not produce lubrication. If you don’t use artificial lube, your dildo may produce a lot of friction. This could feel uncomfortable. So save yourself the trouble and get a bottle of lube with your new dildo. Before buying, you need to find the right type that won’t damage your dildo. For example, silicone dildos do not mix well with silicone lube. This type can damage the rubber material of the toy. Medical grade water-based lube is much safer and will not cause any damage.

Bottoms Up!

Now that you know all about picking the perfect dildo, it’s time to order your new sex toy and get naughty! Enjoy!